Prison Writers:
What Prison Does to Love
Prison and relationships are a paradox. You really can’t easily maintain a bond while within the confinement of chains and a cage, but there are a few exceptions to the rule. Speaking as a man who has only experienced a meaningful relationship from within, I believe it can be achieved. But first, we have to name the detours prison relationships create and the ways incarceration shifts the dynamics.
Prison Relationships and the Erosion of Identity
From a male perspective, men are naturally innate to live with a sense of bravado. Prison demands constant submission to authority, which feels like a form of demasculinization. Then, in the relationship, your lady has to step into the forefront, taking care of the bills, cleaning the house, and raising the kids. That puts a massive strain on her. When she then has to make sure you are okay on top of all that, it makes a man feel even less like the supportive partner she deserves. The male ego wants to dominate; when imprisoned, that role reverses. Systematically speaking, prison erodes the male ego.
Separation and the Strain on Prison Relationships
Separation brings a specific strain. It can cause unwanted aggression, because both people yearn for an affection they can’t reach. When that tension builds, deceit can rear its head. Many couples are destroyed because the male fears his lady isn’t faithful; prison psychologically plants those negative seeds. But absence can also reveal true character. Sometimes you find that she is, in fact, a most loyal and passionate Queen. Continue reading >>>
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